Looking through the window of the beach café I watched the waves roll in, curl over and land with a splash of white foam. It never ceased to amaze me how an ocean of water will stop right at the boundary line which God has set for it. (1)
The sound of voices drew me back from my pondering on the enormity of God as Josie and Tracey (2) came to join me. Both women had arranged baby sitters, freeing them from the persistent interruption of children as we talked.
Josie and Tracey were both relatively new to ministry life and were brimming over with vision, excitement and possibility of what God was going to do in their churches. I looked at their fresh young faces and thought to myself, ‘I remember when I too felt life was an unmarked beach stretched out before me, just waiting for me to place my footprint upon it.’
The purpose for our coffee together was for these young women to glean some insight from the life changing lessons I had learnt when I was, like them, new to ministry.
‘I have made note of 11 life changing lessons I learnt in my early years of pastoring,’ I began.
1. To take the risk and reach out to someone who had an understanding of my world.
Being in desperate need to talk with someone about my new life as a pastor’s wife, I opened up and shared honestly my thoughts and feelings with a friend.
I thought she would understand but she didn’t. She was shocked by some of the things I said. From my perspective I was just having a good grizzle to my friend about my husband’s new job and how it impacted upon me. Her response closed the door for me to be able talk further with her about any ministry related matters.
I initiated contact with a senior pastor’s wife whom I knew and respected and talked with her through some of my challenges. She totally understood. It was such a huge relief to know that what I was experiencing was normal for a young mother in her early ministry years as a pastor’s wife.